Hopefully this will make me feel better

Huh where to start... Here we go.

We got married. We always had this fight about if we had kids and got divorced he would take the kids from me because of my "mental" background. Now I am the first to say if I wasn't medicated and was being a non-medicated Halee then yeah, please take them. They deserve to be safe and taken care of.

So we are divorced, we have 50/50 custody and it works because I am "medicated". I am a good mom, I always put my kids first. Before my sanity, before boys (the ones I sleep with) just to be clear,and before I buy anything for myself. I don't remember when the last time I bought something for myself. Ok

He is dating, (see previous blog that I vented about the woman).

Well I have become Friends with the woman. Like really. She has a HUGE influence on my ex husband which directly influences my kids, which in return effects me.

So she is a nice woman. But lots of people are nice... Doesn't mean they should reproduce.

So her ex-husband is being a jerk. (Really that's what I think) he is fighting for custody of his kid that she had with her. And the little girl she had when they started dating (she was like 6 weeks). But let's be real here. She isn't biological his. So to say he has rights over this kid is nonsense. Now he has been paying child support for both of these kids. One his one not. So sure if he's paying he should have some say. But anyway. Again back to the fact that she is a nice person.

So he is fighting by saying a few things 1: they are not fed good food. To this I have no idea. I am sure she feeds them just fine. 2: her house is a unfit home because of the condition she keeps it. (She lives in trash). Well I don't know anything about that. She has never let me in the house. She always said it was to messy. 3: she leaves them alone all the time and neglects them. Now this I know for sure is indeed true. She puts them to bed, and hops down across town to her "boyfriends" house. Aka my ex-husband.

A side vent: what the hell, her oldest is 13, 14 in August. Yes he is old enough to babysit the kids. But should have to every night NO! The poor kid deserves to be a kid. Not to mention the things that could happen... Examples: home invasion, fire, emergency situations that would need an ambulance. All of which would be bad. So no I don't like the way she puts her self first.

It's just not how you woman should act if you have kids. Do I understand that sometimes you need a break, a night out, or whatever. Yes! But get a grown up babysitter. You know?

Ok this is where my vent really starts.

My Ex condones this behavior. He tells her that she shouldn't change her routine. As in keep coming over after they are in bed. Because it would appear that she knows its wrong. REALLY JASON!! When she was served with this paperwork, she called me at 11:30 and said first words of the conversation "will you lie for me" meaning she KNOWS it's wrong.

If I was her and acted like her, and he found out about it... Guess what? He would take them from me! But I guess whatever. He holds me to a complete different standard. It not fair! Ok well I don't care. I would never do that... Ever. It's not an appropriate way to raise children. At all. Does she work two jobs? Yes! Does she work hard? Yes! Is she a good person? Yeah. Is she a good mom? Well I'm not gonna say no, but she needs to reevaluate her parenting tactics. Because when you have children... Your life changes. It's no longer about you. Just Saying.

I have always respected my ex-husbands choices, he is a great father. He would die for his kids if needed. I don't worry about Justin and Conner. Why? Because he is a good dad. He's there, he's committed. He understands that he had children with me. And it changed both our life's. changed for the good. We co-parent well in my option. We talk about big things, we plan birthdays, do we do everything right? I'm sure we have made some mistakes but non that would endanger our boys.

But his support of a woman that is doing things that would get my kids take from me really pisses me off.

Like a lot

Ok end of vent I guess. Hopefully the judge does the right thing. Hopefully she will straighten up and act like a mom instead of a 22 year old. Hopefully she doesn't lose her kids. That would make me sad. Sad for her.

Ok, I guess that's it I guess.